Messaging Mexican Women Online — 5 Steps
You’ve read her profile, and now you’re thinking about what you’re going to say. You begin to ask questions: “Will I mess up?” “Will she think I’m being creepy?” You find one and reword your greeting to the best effect only for you to reconsider another line to say hello.
Maybe you’re thinking, “she won’t like me” or “I don’t think I have a chance.” My friend, let’s try another way of approaching this. Maybe it’s our criticism or second-guessing our actions that get in the way of taking the first step.
I will share with you five steps to start you off messaging with your hermosa señorita.
1. Start your mind fresh and empty.
Before you start a conversation, know that nothing will upset a Mexican woman or any woman you talk to in general than you not focusing on her while you are talking.
Any past events or irrelevant thoughts should be wiped from your mind. Now, don’t waste time and go to the next step.
2. Start simple and message “Hi.”
They say that simple is best and when you get to complex stuff and mess it up, they also say to “go back to the basics.” The reasons for this advice are mainly practical — it gets you started.
As you get better at overcoming your fears of starting the conversation, you will be integrating other words and phrases. Next…
3. Ask small questions like “How are you?”
Open-ended questions will eventually branch off to other topics with time. Don’t rush it. Ask a question like “how are you?” It is simple and very open, in the sense that it gives freedom to the respondent on how to answer. You can also ask, “How was your day?”
You will then begin to combine the “hi” with the “how are you” and you have a complex phrase: “Hi, how are you?” You will have a lot more creativity and confidence in your courtship as you go along. You can start with your methods later, but remember crawling comes first before learning to walk.
Now the ball is in her court. Either she will reply with a positive “fine, thank you” or an unlikely negative like “I’m not fine, but thank you for asking.” A couple of things she might do: She might not reply, she might just describe other things, or she might ask you a question. This is where you unfold the conversation.
4. Unfold the conversation and explore her world.
If she describes an event, ask about it. She will be happy to share because nothing makes someone happier than talking about themselves. You can also follow up with a question. For example, if she talks about her sick dog, follow up with a question about if she took it to the vet.
The most surprising response would be if she starts asking things about you, which of course you might also love to share with her.
If ever there is a pause, give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she is busy with an important matter. However, if the pause in communication takes days or weeks, then consider diversifying your time and conversing with another lady that interests you until you find one that you have chemistry with and you end up communicating effortlessly every moment of the day that you can.
5. Learn more about her culture than you already know.
It’s said that learning never stops and it’s right because there is always something to learn about another nation. If you don’t know Spanish, start learning my friend. It will be useful if you ever want to tour Mexico or if you ever get invited to a celebration. In the long-term, it will keep you in the good graces of her parents if you end up going steady.
If you know about her hometown, ask what the fiestas or feast days are where she is from and what they are like. Ask what Mexican street food she likes, if any. Ask how her family celebrates Día de los Muertos a.k.a. the Day of the Dead. Has she ever been to the pre-Hispanic city of Chichen-Itza?
There are endless cultural topics to learn about with your conversation partner.
In Conversation, Start Small and Go From There
If ever you have problems in starting a conversation, the usual thing that blocks us from making that first step is hesitation. This might be because you don’t have a plan or template. Everyone has a plan until there is contact with the situation, but that shouldn’t prevent you from making the initial move.
Start small and forget the past and any unnecessary thoughts. Take the first step, and say hi. Lastly, unfold the conversation with whatever comes to mind. Ask simple questions which will lead to more in-depth questions to find out more about her and her culture along the way.
So, what are you waiting for? Send a friendly “hola senorita, como estas?” Your efforts will be sure to bring a smile to her lovely face.
